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Halfway to Venus (dovegreyreader)


‘My mother closed the door and turned towards me, and without saying anything, she made a chopping motion with her right hand above her left elbow. I thought my world had come to an end.’

So I’m wittering on about knitting and quilting on the same day that I am reading Sarah Anderson’s truly remarkable book Halfway to Venus , A One-Armed Journey and wham, it hits you right between the eyes, my two-handed and much loved craft activities may be nigh on impossible for Sarah.

How does that make Sarah feel?
How does that make me feel?
How does that make you feel?

However this is not a book about making you feel guilty for having two arms. Thus far it is a book about grief, loss and awareness and much more besides.

In 1957 at the age of ten, Sarah was diagnosed with a synovial sarcoma and admitted to Great Ormond Street for the amputation of her left arm.The surgery was performed by Mr Denis Browne, an orthopaedic surgeon whose name was legend in the corridors of the hospital when I arrived to become a ‘nurse in pink’ some fifteen years later, so I was immediately fascinated by Sarah’s experiences. Even more so because my first, and therefore most memorable, ward placement as a student nurse straight out of Preliminary Training School was twelve weeks on the seventh floor Private Patients where Sarah was treated. I can smell the smell (antiseptic mixed with polish, milk, rubber and gravy) and visualise the rooms and the ward as I type and of course the whereabouts of every single item in the sluice and the linen cupboards where I spent a great deal of those twelve weeks.

That said, nothing but nothing will prepare you adequately for this book other than a personal experience of amputation and to say I’ve had my eyes opened would be understating the effects of today’s reading of the first 100 pages or so.

What Sarah makes clear in her exceptionally well-written book is that if we were to meet, she would be the one to bear the burden of my embarrassment if I said something insensitive, and that’s often how it is for people as they apologise for making the rest of us feel slightly awkward and uncomfortable,

‘The burden always seems to lie with the disabled or bereaved person: again and again it is the way the person with the disability reacts that paves the way for other people’s reactions…there is a very strong urge to apologise and somehow to take the blame.’

then this and how true it is

‘Society certainly does have a way of categorising people and there is an assumption that to be a full member of society there is a ‘normal’ way to be.’

Read the full review on the dovegreyreader blog…